Welcome to
Intimate Times Couples Social Club
DRESS and DECORUM,
ETIQUETTE and EXPECTATION
Information Page – Updated 15 MARCH 2008

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You’ve now Entered the Realm of the
Adult Couples Lifestyle Club, and You’re thinking…

”Now What? How am I supposed to act? Do I have to Swing? Do I have to allow that person to touch me? Is this a ‘free for all?’ Can I just go and grope or watch or join in? I’m not really comfortable with my body - I don’t look like Barbie (or Ken).. Will I be accepted? What if I think someone is Hot but my partner is hesitant? OMG!”

OH YEAH… What am I supposed to WEAR????

**If you are single, please pay particular attention to the last paragraphs.

First and Foremost, this is a PRIVATE PARTY Adult Couples Social Club. Our members are what make the Club, and we take Member input seriously. So our Best response to you is that the Primary Answer to ALL of the above questions is
RESPECT.

We don't have a lot of rules at Intimate Times,
However, the Golden Rule of RESPECT is paramount
to living the lifestyle and is the RULE of THUMB
if you want to play Here.

Here are some very basic Expectations of Intimate Times.
Much of what follows, applies to
All lifestyle clubs and parties.

1.  Above all other things, No Means No.

You've heard it before and it's a basic rule at all clubs.
It is a sign of respect to redirect one’s unwanted advances early; He or She can then move on if they choose. More so, though, it is an absolute REQUIREMENT that when one says No, it is respected.

In the lifestyle, you need only to say no, you do not need to explain. Any harassment with regard to saying No will see the offender removed from this club. Above all, at Intimate Times, we respect each other’s choices and expect that our choices are given that same respect.

2.  A large part of this lifestyle is to build and maintain positive social relationships with likeminded people. Even if you are not attracted to any particular couple or person, Courtesy is paramount.

Saying No does not burn a bridge, however, disrespect (gossip, rudeness, etc) will rapidly equate to self-defeat. It may be that you are not attracted to any particular couple/person and that is Okay, however, be polite, interactive, and smile - remember, the community is quite interconnected and you never know what opportunities that particular ‘Life-styler’ may bring to you or prevent you from in the future.

3.  You should feel as comfortable meeting new people here as you would in any social environment… We are, after all, just regular people first. A good rule is, if it’s acceptable in general, then its acceptable here.

4. "I’m not really comfortable with my body - I don’t look like Barbie (or Ken).. Will I be accepted?" Wow, if this isn’t simply the most Universal thought in our Society. Intimate Times is a Place where we Celebrate Beauty in all Forms. Sensuality is an Attitude and True Beauty is Exuded through Ones Eyes and Welcoming Smile..

The moment you Enter ITs, you will have a sense of Welcoming Warmth.

5.  Suppose you are interested in another couple, but your partner is not, then what? You came as a couple and that is your primary relationship to nurture.

·        Consequently, you have to behave as a couple. If there is no cross-chemistry, don’t push it. You will only cause problems with your mate.

·        Our lives are already bereft with insecurities and jealousy. The last thing anyone need do is to encourage exactly those behaviours that hurt our loved ones and harm our closest relationships.

6.  Suppose that you both feel comfortable and would like to go and lounge with your, However, you have not yet ‘connected’ with any particular couple, can you just ‘join in’ with whomever?
Generally, Etiquette of this Lifestyle denotes that YOU can ONLY ‘join-in’ if invited. If you want to connect, consider the creation of your own play space - your enthusiasm goes a long way towards the attraction of other couples. You may be surprised at how many couples ask to join your party.

7.  Hygiene , Hygiene , Hygiene ... And once more, Hygiene. Again, it's simple. Be clean, be fresh, take a shower, comb your hair, brush your teeth,, DEODORIZE, (even if YOU don’t think you smell – few things turn a positive situation around faster than Body Odour - Deodorize).

At Intimate Times, we recognize that Sometimes one is a rush and do not have the time for a fluff and puff before arrival. Consequently, We provide a selection of grooming products so that you can freshen up if you need to.

Clean hands, clean bodies, trimmed nails, etc. - make the evening more pleasant for everyone.

8.  As in any other social situation, if you look and smell good, you will be noticed. Consequently, Clean, Well Fitting attire will put you in the positive spot light. Speaking of Attire, Intimate Times has a Dress Code - "Classy Chic" or "In Theme". The idiom “Dress to Impress” has Real Meaning here.

DON’T BE SURPRIZED WHEN YOU ARE ASKED TO REMOVE YOUR BASEBALL CAP!!!

NO TOUQUES, NO BALL CAPS, NO GANGSTA(ER) WEAR, NO SWEAT PANTS…

Theme Dress NOTWITHSTANDING.

‘He’ should match ‘She’ - this does NOT mean you need to Wear the same outfit - rather, Women work for hours to look PHENOMENAL and all too often, their mates show up dressed in pretty much whatever they threw on and were wearing all day

-          This is NOT ACCEPTABLE -

Your Clothes NEED to be clean and you NEED to be deodorized. You will not be allowed into the Club if you are UNKEMPT. This is a ‘Couples meeting Couples’ environment and you need to dress for it... while it may be difficult to believe, WE are ACTUALLY trying to help you out with this policy… Afterall, SHE will NOT necessarily think You are hot simply because YOU think She is.  We all want to feel comfortable, however, if it’s dirty, smelly, or in disrepair, leave it at home.

HONESTLY – don’t be embarrassed at the door – Clean up first J

Fridays are more casual in dress, however, dirty sweats, dirty jeans, or simply, dirty, are NEVER considered Club attire. Remember, Regardless of if you're a couple, the truth is if you dress well & smell good, you'll be amazed at the results.

**Singles – Men are usually welcome to attend on Friday nights (check the web-site "Events" page). Since this is primarily a COUPLES club, attendance of Single Men is restricted on Saturday (typical of most Lifestyle clubs). Single Women are always welcome to attend.

Why? Several reasons:

1.  Without that restriction, the club would have 20 single men for each couple – which is not conducive for a couple to couple environment and,

2.the general COUPLE membership has requested it. After all, ITs is primarily a COUPLES interactive social club.

Keep in mind, Should you, as a single male, wish to attend on a Saturday, You must already be an APPROVED single male member of Intimate Times, & you must attend, signed in, with a Member couple in good standing as their guest.  Keep in mind that you are with that couple and are restricted to the main level UNLESS invited otherwise.

If you are the male of a member couple in good standing, and your mate has approved it, you may attend Saturdays as a single if She’s unavailable. HOWEVER, simply being a member does NOT win you this privilege. If we regularly see you two together then we are very likely to allow either of you to attend alone (with your spouse's approval) but if we NEVER see your wife, then you will be considered a single and no longer allotted this privilege.  

To become a single male member of Intimate Times, you have to attend first on a Friday night (after you have submitted your photo, have been interviewed and approved, unless you attend with a current member in good standing) meet the owners/hosts, understand the rules, and be approved for membership. Approval is primarily based on your behaviour along with the reactions of other members. Keep in mind, that while you may have an initial approval, if we receive complaints with regard to your behaviour, your membership will be revoked without financial compensation.

BIG HINT – IF YOU STARE, YOU ARE History (flirting is NOT staring)

The Women have the Power Edge in this Club – Don’t Make them Feel Uncomfortable.

**Single Women are always Welcome on both Friday and Saturday (any complaints with regard to this inequity will fall upon deaf ears).  Keep in mind that single women have to fit in with the club as much as single men and if there are complaints, your membership will be revoked without any financial compensation.  

On Most Nights, The Upper level is EXCLUSIVELY for couples & single women.

 Single Men must be INVITED by a couple to be allowed to ascend.

WATCH THE EVENTS PAGE for Exceptions

Otherwise, you could LOSE your membership – without ANY financial Compensation

If you have any more questions, please email us at intimate_times@hotmail.com

Or give us a Call

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Hope to See you There.
Have a Magnificent Day!