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Welcome to ********************************************************** You’ve now Entered the Realm of the ”Now What? How
am I supposed to act? Do I have to Swing? Do I have to allow that person to
touch me? Is this a ‘free for all?’ Can I just go and grope or watch or join
in? I’m not really comfortable with my body - I don’t look like Barbie (or
Ken).. Will I be accepted? What if I think someone
is Hot but my partner is hesitant? OMG!” **If you are single, please pay particular attention to the
last paragraphs. First and Foremost, this is a PRIVATE PARTY Adult Couples Social Club. Our members are what make the Club,
and we take Member input Seriously. Thus, Our Best response to the Above and to You is that the
Primary Answer to ALL of the above questions is We don't have a lot of rules at Intimate Times, Here are some very Basic Expectations of Intimate Times. |
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1.Above all other things, No Means No. You've
heard it before and it's a basic rule at all clubs. In the lifestyle, you need only to say No, you DO NOT need to
explain. Any harassment with regard to saying
No will see the offender removed from this club. Above all, at Intimate
Times, we respect each other’s choices and expect that our choices are given
that same respect. 2.
A large part of this
Lifestyle is to Build and Maintain Positive Social Relationships with Likeminded
People. Even if you are not attracted to any particular couple or person, Courtesy IS PARAMOUNT!!! Saying No does not burn a bridge, however, disrespect (gossip,
rudeness, etc) will rapidly equate to self-defeat. It may be that you are not
attracted to any particular couple/person and that is Okay, however, be
polite, interactive, and smile - remember, the community is quite
interconnected and you never know what opportunities that particular ‘Life-styler’ may bring to you, or prevent you from, in the
future. Be polite, smile, say “No” if you mean it…and respect “No” if you hear it. 3.
You should feel as
comfortable meeting new people here as you would in any social environment…
We are, after all, just regular people first. A good rule is, if it’s
acceptable in general, then its
acceptable here. A smile, a gentle
NON-SEXUAL touch is a good indicator of response … if he or she moves in
closer, then move in closer should you desire. Always Remember, our Primary
Rule and NEVER Randomly Grope or Grab – That IS Harassment and will NOT be
tolerated. Groping
and Grabbing is RUDE!! ALL
INTERACTION is by INVITATION
only. 4. "I’m not really comfortable with my body - I don’t look like Barbie (or Ken).. Will I be accepted?" Wow, if this isn’t simply the most Universal thought in our Society. Intimate Times is a Place where we Celebrate Beauty in all Forms. Sensuality is an Attitude and True Beauty is Exuded through Ones Eyes and Welcoming Smile.. We SPECIFICALLY did NOT
inundate our WEB site SexXy IS What SexXy Does! The moment you Enter ITs, you will have a sense of Welcoming Warmth. 5.
Suppose you are
interested in another couple, but your partner is not, then what? You ARRIVED as a COUPLE and
that is your primary relationship to nurture. Consequently, you have to behave
as a Couple. If there is no cross-chemistry, don’t push it. You will only
cause problems with your mate. Our lives are already bereft with insecurities
and jealousy. The last thing anyone need do is to encourage exactly those behaviours that hurt our loved ones and harm our closest
relationships. Our Club is about Bringing you Closer as a Couple – Sharing More,
Being More Open & Honest about Your likes,
dislikes, wants, desires, & fantasies… and making them Happen. 6.
Suppose that you both
feel comfortable and would like to go to an Open Play Space… (either at a private home, hotel room, or other
recreational space), However, you have not yet ‘connected’ with any
particular couple, can you just ‘join in’? 7.
Hygiene , Hygiene , Hygiene ... And once more, Hygiene. Again, it's simple. Be clean, be fresh, take a shower, comb
your hair, brush your teeth, DEODORIZE, (even if YOU don’t think you smell – few things turn a
positive situation around faster than Body Odor – Deodorize! At Intimate Times, we recognize that Sometimes, even with Excellent Hygiene, one
requires a bit of a fluff & puff on arrival. Consequently, We provide a
selection of grooming products so that you can freshen up if you need to. Clean hands, clean bodies, trimmed nails, etc. - make the
evening more pleasant for everyone. 8.
As in any other social
situation, if you look and smell good, you will be noticed. Consequently, Clean, Well-fitting, attire will
put you in the positive spot light. Speaking of Attire, Intimate Times has a
Dress Code - "Classy Chic" or "In Theme". The idiom
“Dress to Impress” has Real Meaning here. NO Sweats, NO Track outfits, NO ‘Gangsta’, NO Dirty, NO Unkempt..
need we Say More?? ‘He’ should match ‘She’ - this does NOT mean you need to Wear
the same outfit - rather, Women work for hours to look Phenomenal and all too
often, their mates show up dressed in pretty much whatever they threw on and
were wearing all day – This is NOT acceptable. This is a ‘Couples meeting
Couples’ environment and you need to dress for it... while it may be
difficult to believe, She will NOT necessarily think
You are hot simply because YOU think She is.
We all want to feel comfortable, however, if it’s dirty, smelly, or in
disrepair, leave it at
home. Remember, you're a couple, if you both dress well, you'll be
amazed at the results. ************************************************** always, Feel
free to Dress & Act ***************************** BEFORE we
forget… Theme nights are exactly that. ***************************** SINGLES – PAY ATTENTION!! Singles OFTEN have a difficult time connecting in this Lifestyle. This particularly applies to Single Men. 1. This is NOT a playce to ‘get some’ simply because Lifestylers are more sexually free. The REALITY of it is, Primarily, Couples prefer Couples. You will have a Better Shot at “Getting Lucky” at the end of the Evening at ANY Public, Non-Swinger, Night Club out there. 2. This is NOT a playce to attempt to Break Up Couples – interference like that will have you removed. A smart man in the Lifestyle ALWAYS connects with the ‘He’ of Every Couple first. 3. Single Women may find more offers than Single Men. You have every opportunity to say “No” as does anyone else…. Or “Yes” as to your Liking. As with the Men, keep in mind that Unless HE is Single, his Other ½ IS his number one – Usually it will be the ‘She’ who will make the decision. **Singles – Men are usually welcome to attend on Friday
nights (check the web-site "Events" page). Since this is PRIMARILY a
COUPLES’ club, attendance of Single Men is restricted on Saturday (typical of
most Lifestyle clubs). Single Women are always welcome to attend. Why? Several reasons: 1.
Without
that restriction, the club would have 20 single men for each couple – which
is not conducive for a couple to couple environment and, 2.the general couple membership has requested it. After all, ITs is primarily a COUPLES’ interactive social club. Keep in mind, Should you, as a single male, wish to attend on
a Saturday, You must already be an APPROVED single male member of Intimate Times, & you must attend signed in with a Member couple in good
standing as their guest. Keep in mind
that you are then considered with that couple and are restricted to remain
with that couple UNLESS invited otherwise. If you are the male of
a member couple in good standing, and your mate has approved it, you may
attend Saturdays as a single if She’s unavailable. HOWEVER, simply being a
member does NOT win you this privilege. If we regularly see you two together
then we are very likely to allow either of you to attend alone (with your
spouse's approval) but if we NEVER see your wife, then you will be considered
a single and no longer allotted this privilege. To become a single male member of Intimate Times, you have to
attend first on a Friday night, meet the owners/hosts, understand the rules,
and be approved for membership. Approval is primarily based on Your behaviour and the reactions of other members. Keep in
mind, that while you may have an initial approval, if we receive complaints
with regard to your behaviour, your membership will
be revoked without financial compensation. **Single Women are always Welcome on both Friday and Saturday
(any complaints with regard to this inequity will fall upon deaf ears). Keep in mind that single women have to fit
in with the club as much as single men. On Most Nights, The Upper level is EXCLUSIVELY for couples & single women wanting to lounge. Single Men must be INVITED by a couple or join with another willing single (to become a couple) before you are allowed to ascend. No Exceptions If you have any more questions, please email us at intimate_times@hotmail.com Or give us a Call at
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